Defeat HURT-Ways to healing

Nothing hurts more than being ignored, replaced, forgotten, lied to, talked about, hated, made fun of. Intentionally or accidentally, we all have hurt someone in our life and also got hurt by someone else. Love and hurt are part of life.  These are intrinsic human traits that we are emotional by nature and unable to control all our emotions all the time. We do mistakes, we hurt others. How about apologizing after we realise we have caused pain to someone?

Well, that doesn’t happen all the time. Not all persons are of same nature or have the same sense of responsibility to feel the guilt and mend the relationship. And as the days are passing by, the modernity is making people more insensitive towards emotional feelings. Things have changed, will change more. What should we do to protect ourselves from the unwanted hurt? The sensitive people are true by their heart. They love tremendously, trust honestly, they take care of their loved ones with a sense of responsibility. They see the world as they are, as most of we do. They forget about the various faces that exist in this material world.  So they get the jolts from the opportunists, the selfish, the haters, the jealous from time to time.  They get weird with the hurt, astonished to infinity, heartbroken -while doing their duties of ‘being human’.   The good human beings are worried to do their duties towards family, society, work etc but most of the time they remain unaware of cruelty.

Hence, The fragile heart gets the unstoppable bleeding when hurt.

Hurt? Heartbroken? Come on! That’s not the end of life! You cry or you scream out of disbelief. Let all your agony leave your body and soul. Share with someone the pain you have got, but don’t hurt yourself by keeping quiet. Let your soul bare out all your pain, let it go. Sooner is the better.

Remember, some people on this earth take the birth to hurt others. It is their nature, their upbringing, their frustration, jealousy, hatred- may be anything which is physiological or psychological. But you try to learn from the hurt, you must learn from the hurt to protect yourself from the unforeseen hurts. Your soul will get matured, your mind will learn to read human nature, slowly.

I have learnt many lessons in my life, now I am like a tested soul who rarely reacts with the wrongdoings. I avoid the wrong people as my sixth sense alerts me about the other person standing in front of me. This alarm bell rings every time I meet a new person, the bell rings with the experiences, maturity or as my hairs turned grey and greyer. I can remember the days when I felt tremendous hurt and there was no one to wipe out my tears. The people around me were so cruel that they never bothered to console me, they saw me crying, unperturbed, with stony hearts. I cried more with the disbelief as the human natures unfolded. What is sadistic, torturous, inhuman, nasty- I knew. Knowing the darker sides of life was necessary. Those were the days without a cell phone and internets. At least in this era, we can peep into different sites with the smartphone on our palms. We can visit the sites where few words of consolations are there, the articles which provide the tips on hurt, depression, deceive. But two decades ago the things were much difficult with only one resort- that is the Almighty. I could only pray to God to turn my days for better. I have adjusted myself with those cruel creatures but I have not forgotten those days. Now I am cautious, I know whom I am dealing with, I know how I consoled myself without having none beside of me. I went along with my passion-reading and teaching. My job kept me busy and alive, my classroom, my students helped me to forget the apathy, my children put smiles on my face as the days passed by. I slowly cut all relations with the difficult people- now I don’t bother about the number of people in my life. I believe in quality, not in quantity. Have a few good friends and you are there- in PEACE.

In the end, it’s not about who broke your heart. It’s about who mended it. It’s not about those who let you down, but rather those who always held you up. It’s not about the ones that valued you. In the end, it’s not about all the times you were called beautiful, it’s about all the days you felt it.

As you get older you find out that the true happiness is not in how much you make or how many degrees you have or how big your house is or how fancy your car is. Its finding peace and joy, a calmness in your life that will soon become the most important thing to you. Your family are what matters to you. Things that are of a quality not of quantity. Among ten, you will find one who is a sympathizer, catch hold of that one and share your thoughts. Choose your real friend when you are in trouble. Always remember, life is really a struggle for most of us, do not get disheartened by thinking “why me?” kind of stuff. Rather try to look at the people who are in more miserable conditions than yours- it gives solace. If your spouse is good, your children are good, you are lucky, many suffer on these fronts too. When you fall in love, remember you will get the hurt like never before. It is the rule of love. So be well prepared beforehand you fall in love with anyone!! These are a few of my life’s lessons, there is plenty to share, will unfold slowly. Now, I know that HURT is the way of life, the way of living. If you are alive, you will get the test of hurt. So, I have adapted slowly what Shannon L Alder said beautifully-

Forgive to heal